How to Have a Happy Life

There is only one person in the world who is responsible for your happiness.


This is pretty much the most important realization that you will ever have in your entire life. The moment you take responsibility for yourself and your choices is more powerful and freeing than anything else you could possibly imagine.

It will FREE you.

The answer to every problem is usually the simplest, but we love to over-complicate things. Yes, sometimes things are complex, but the answers are still usually able to be put in blunt terms.

Have a shitty job? Quit.

Have a horrible relationship? Leave.

Despise your school? Switch or drop out. You can learn on your own.

Sick of your messy house? Get rid of most of your stuff.

Bored of everything? It’s because you’re boring. Challenge yourself. Become adventurous.

Hate the world? Make it better. Help someone.

Tired of being ill? Nourish yourself properly. Start sleeping enough. Get outside. Learn from people who are actually extremely healthy, not people with prescription pads.

Lonely? Take the abundant love you have inside you and give it to yourself. Get out there. Do things. You’ll meet people. Don’t be a dick. Respect others, do good things, and you won’t be lonely. It’s impossible. Even if you’re alone, you will love being with you.

Trapped? ESCAPE. People have broken out of jail, escaped from other countries, and done everything possible to get out of bad situations. If you want it badly enough, you will make it happen. There is always a way.

If you are seriously miserable in a situation, you are rarely trapped. You DO have options. You might not like them, but have you thought of them all? (No, they are endless). Have you really gone out of your comfort zone? That is where the answers lie.

Isn’t your life worth it? Isn’t being happy worth it? Otherwise, can you call it living?

You can’t be happy unless you make it a priority, and only you know what makes you happy. If you don’t know, you need to do some deep soul searching, because who wants to be bored, lonely, and depressed their entire lives? Do you want to be a curmudgeon? Do you want to die regretful?

Sometimes people think they are happy, but they numb out with the typical things, tricking themselves, but they ignore their true desires because those things got buried in the muck of whatever life threw at them.

Life bumps do happen. Tragedies occur, obviously. But people get through them, people get by, people heal. And the ones who don’t  – why? Staying stuck in the same spot forever is doing you no good. It’s like cement around your ankles. Get a sledgehammer and MOVE. The only way to happiness is THROUGH shitty times, and to gain the strength to say FUCK NO to whatever is holding you from that happiness. It’s to say you are worth having a good life – no one else is going to give it to you. Even if you are handed anything you could ever want, if you don’t feel you deserve it, it won’t matter.

Believe you deserve a good life. If you are a good person, you deserve to be happy, just because you are alive.



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Are you Living, or Existing?

What does life mean?

The first definition:

The condition that distinguishes animals and plants from inorganic matter, including the capacity for growth, reproduction, functional activity, and continual change preceding death.

Are you continually changing for the better? Are you functionally active? Do you grow? Or does your life mimic inorganic matter – are you sedentary and bored, regressing and wasting your breath and body until you no longer exist?

Do you want to just exist?

2nd definition: Living things and their activity.

Key word is activity. What are you doing? What does active mean? Engaging or ready to engage in physically energetic pursuits.

Are you physically energetic, or do you mostly sit on your butt, or mindlessly flit your time away by staring at screens, making no goals, and just accepting what “life” is “giving” you? Get creative and claim ownership of what is happening in your life. You’re the one who made it happen (I am not talking about extreme circumstances, so don’t come after me about that!)

3rd definition: Vitality, vigor, or energy.

Does this sound like you? Have you got these traits? Or are you sort of the opposite? Yeah? Most seem to be….

What does it mean to exist? Live, especially under adverse conditions.

Adverse conditions! Almost everyone is in an adverse condition of some sort. Shitty health, debt, crappy relationship, bunk job. Life can still flourish in adversity, but to me this is called SURVIVAL. There are ways OUT. Existing is accepting your adverse conditions and staying a stagnant state. This will slowly kill you.

So are you LIVING, or EXISTING?

One of the definitions for death is “a damaging or destructive state of affairs.”

So you can be dead while existing. That isn’t life. Are you really ALIVE?

What is ALIVE, anyway? Other than the most basic definition, it also means “alert and active; animated.”

Does this sound like you, or the opposite? What sort of LIFE do you want?

People like to spend time doing mundane shit: drinking, partying, indulging, video games, TV, gorging. People will try and tempt you to use substances to change your mood, charisma, energy levels, and ability to socialize. They’ll glorify damaging, distracting pastimes and say: “You gotta live a little.”

No thanks. I want to live a LOT.

I want to be ALIVE: Active and animated!
I want to LIVE: grow, change, and actively engage myself. I want vigor, vitality, and energy.

And I want to LIVE for as long as I EXIST.

Does that not sound like a fantastic alternative to merely just breathing and sort of just…being here? Because you can have it. Stop being comfortable. Push yourself past your comfort zones. Ignore what you believe to be limits, they don’t exist on the level that you think they do.

“There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.” – Bruce Lee

“The voyage was teaching me how unexceptional I was and how exceptional the human mind and body is. What wonders the human mind and body are capable of achieving! How so few know how much we can do! Our limits are merely mirages on the far side of the lake – we can see them ahead, but that’s all they are: mirages. Our real limits are beyond the scope of our vision, beyond the horizon, a boundary worthy of exploration.” – Walden on Wheels by Ken Ilgunas.