What Are You Going to Do Otherwise?

A huge passion of mine is ninjutsu, which I do three times a week. On Monday I felt a bit resistant towards going. Throughout the day leading up to the hour-long drive to class, I fought against it – and then the best question ever came into my mind!

“What are you gonna do otherwise?”

My answer was, “Probably play on my computer or something.”

I said back to myself, “Is that going to make you a better ninja?”

I smirked and replied, “No….”

Very effective. Next time you are resistant to something you know you WANT to do (not should do), ask yourself that question.

Don’t wanna go to the gym? What would you be doing instead? Watching TV? Is that going to get you the body you want? Are Ross and Rachel gonna rip your abs and blast your fat? Nuh uh.

Don’t feel like working on your novel? What are you gonna do? Read Cracked and Buzzfeed? Are you insane? Open your flipping MS Word and type, bitch!

Don’t feel like practicing your oboe? Let me guess…you’d rather check out what OTHER people are doing on Facebook.

Sitting around and wishing for stuff is gonna get you nowhere. We have limited time on this plane of existence. You need take whatever steps possible to get you to where you want to be. Enjoy each step. Just because steps are small do not mean you should brush them off and fill up your time with meaningless junk. You can do that if you want, but do the important things FIRST. The more little steps you take, the closer you will be, the better you will be, the more you will be making of your life. Everything large is made of something small.

Tonight I’m going to class again. I usually want to go, but I always go regardless of how I feel, and I am ALWAYS glad I do. You will be glad you take your steps, too. But DO them.

Recommended Reading:

The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles
Turning Pro: Tap Your Inner Power and Create Your Life’s Work
Do the Work

Is This Leading Me to Who I Want to Be?

Short analogy:

I’ve had this habit since I was a kid: every time I go to throw something away, I ask if I can recycle it, in any capacity. I hate throwing things “away.” Almost everything can be recycled or composted. This is a pretty simple habit to get into – just ask yourself EVERY time before you throw something in the garbage, “Does this need to go in the GARBAGE, or can it go somewhere else?”

I realized that it is astonishingly helpful asking yourself before every ACTION (or inaction) you take, “Is this going to lead me to who I want to be?”

Every mouthful you take, everything you buy, all the time you waste online, every moment you spend playing a video game or reading Buzzfeed or watching reruns of shows you’ve already seen 10 times – seriously. And then you say “I have no time.” YOU DO have time.

YOU DO have focus. YOU DO have willpower. It is all about having focus. If you have no idea what you want to be and WHY, then you will have no reason to do anything, really.

“To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.” – Bruce Lee

Life is not  just something that happens to you, it is the other way around. You are not meant to find yourself, you are meant to CREATE yourself, and creation doesn’t just happen, it takes dedication and decision. You must be tenacious.

So my challenge to you, is to figure out what the hell you want to BE. Then ask yourself, with every movement, and every decision, if that is helping you become who you picture yourself as. Do the work.

“It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.”

“If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.” – Bruce Lee


What to be a writer? Then write. Is spending 20 minutes on Twitter helping you become a writer? No? If you have writer’s block, read about writing. Write anything, free-flow. Don’t even think.

Want to be a martial artist? Is it helping you to shop for shoes when you already have 50 pairs? Or to jam Doritos in your mouth while watching Season 4 of Friends…again? Is it helping you train by buying lots of gear you don’t really need so you can LOOK the part? Or should you be training, or strengthening your body? Stretching? What else can you do instead that would supplement your interest, and make you BETTER?

Want to be a musician? Are you spending lots of time downloading new music and dancing around your living room? Or are you practicing your instrument at any given moment, writing lyrics, and advertising and recruiting band members, learning music programs on your computer, or networking with other musicians?

I can go on and on. Every moment can be utilized. Every bite you put into your mouth. Want a better body? To lose weight? First ask yourself WHY? Every time you eat say, “Is this helping me lose weight? Or is it me facing resistance? Am I feeding my addiction, or feeding my body what it NEEDS?” This is pretty simplistic thinking, but if we can train ourselves to ask ourselves this every time we do something, like I did with my garbage, we will train ourselves to make the most of our lives and move in the directions we want to go.

Are you overweight, obese, and spending hours online every day? How about you spend those hours learning about nutrition, and training your body? You can start ANYWHERE. With a walk, with a few repetitions of weights. With a huge fruit smoothie every morning. There are SO MANY steps you can take, even small ones – but don’t think small forever, THINK BIG. You are capable of SO MUCH MORE than you realize. Push yourself. If you have to take small steps at first, that’s okay, but your dreams are just outside of your comfort zone.

(Secret: Outside of your comfort zone is actually thrilling and the most confidence building place you can ever be – so if you are low in self-confidence, regularly push yourself out of your comfort zone, in the direction of your dreams).

EVERYONE  has dreams, or they DID and just forgot. DON’T FORGET what they are.

Ask yourself WHY? WHY do you want to lose weight? To be healthier? WHY? So you can do something athletic? So you can be sexy? WHY? So you can attract a partner? WHY? So you can be loved? You know what is infinitely better? Loving yourself enough to go after something you WANT TO DO. That will give you confidence over anyone else paying attention to you. Do it for YOU, and you alone.

Start now, with whatever you have. Once you are on the path, better tools will show up. It is magnetic. You will meet people and find things to help you along, it is the way of the universe, and the way the brain works. Get on the path, and make every moment count!

(If you can’t tell, I’ve been reading a lot of Bruce Lee stuff lately, heh!)

Recommended Reading: Do the Work – Steven Pressfield

Ultimate Purpose

It’s been a while since I’ve written.

I was sidetracked – by lack of money, by a need to move out of my home again, by food, by little obsessions, by need-to-do things on my list.

And lately I have realized I am a procrastinator, and a crow. Yeah, I like shiny things, and I get distracted by them. Not literal shiny things (well, sometimes – I do love sequins), but anything gorgeous, inspiring, uplifting. I’ve always been like this, and to some extent it’s great, especially when deep in a funk, but where does it end? When does it stop?

I have realized very recently that my low moods tend to correlate with a lack of action and a lack of expressing my creativity. Also lack of movement (which I have been doing lately, a lot, but could still use more!) contributes to that mucky, blagh feeling and sometimes at the end of the day, even if I have done a million little things that “need” doing, I feel this empty feeling.

And so I have come to the conclusion that I need to stop consuming and seeking inspiration, and start DOING. The action is more important. It doesn’t need to be perfect, and the inspiration is everywhere, anyway. The inspiration is a piece of street art, or a tree, or a fabulous old lady in a cocktail dress.

My time is now going to be focused on creating.

Something I did today was not just write out goals – it was to write out my ultimate purposes.

An ultimate purpose gives you a REASON to make goals, and be able to take steps towards them. It also makes the small steps seem much more poignant.

So, for instance, “I wanna lose weight” is not a good goal. In fact it’s a shitty goal and will likely fail you. So what is your ultimate purpose? How about, “My ultimate purpose is to show people the power of healthy transformation by becoming the picture of health.”

Now how do you become that picture of health? You make a plan, and you follow it – with your ULTIMATE PURPOSE in mind, not a vanity goal. Make it WIDER, BROADER, and about MORE than YOU.

So what are my ultimate goals?

To spread beauty, uplift others, limit the suffering of animals as much as I can, strengthen and build the confidence of myself AND other women and girls. TO CREATE.

So, there are a lot of my personal desires that fit into this, but it is much easier to focus on the WHY when I shift the focus off myself and include other people and beings, too.

What are your ultimate purposes, and why?