I know it can be easy to fall into a slump when the weather gets gloomy, and it’s dark out early, and sometimes shit just happens.
I’ve been in this state a little lately since something rotten happened to me, and it’s been hard to perk back up from it, especially in this rainy, foggy, cold weather.
Once you’re stuck in that murky place, and you’re not sure where to grasp, or what to do, it’s common to just drown in your own negativity. You know what is good for you, but you just feel so crappy that you don’t care. You don’t feel worthy of self-care. You just want to bundle up with blankets by the fire and eat cake and watch TV. You don’t want to exercise out in the cold. You don’t want to do errands. And you certainly don’t want to go to work.
I have still stuck to my raw food diet in this time, but higher fat foods have crept back in because they feel more comforting – they can really squash down emotions, especially more than fruit which makes you feel so clear and feel everything more intensely. And that can be hard, especially if you’re used to dealing with your feelings by eating (or drinking, smoking, playing video games, etc – anything to get out of your head).
But I know that it’s not good for me, and even though it can bring short term pleasure, eventually it makes me feel worse.
I know what I need to do in order to feel my best. And so do you.
The best thing to do when you’re in a slump is to write down EVERYTHING you can do that will make you feel better. All of it. Write a list of it, and look at it every time you wake up.
And just follow the list. Don’t even THINK about it. Just do what it says. Treat it like your job. Keep the list with you all the time.
If you still have issues getting going, just break those things into tinier steps and follow that. Like, do you want to go for a run but don’t even want to get out of bed? Don’t even think about the run yet. Think about sitting up. Then think about putting on socks. You can do that! And those micro-steps will eventually lead you out the door, if you break it up small enough.
So what are the things that will make me feel the best? I have written a list – and I know I must follow it, because the winter months are the worst here, and I don’t have a big trip to a warm place to look forward to this time, so I have to get through to spring somehow!
Steps to Feel Better:
1. Low-fat raw vegan diet.
This is the most important. Having to many fatty foods in the gut just makes you feel slow, heavy, and I want to feel light and vibrant.
2. Daily exercise.
And really, I mean playing. Fun stuff that makes you move. It’s hard to get excited about going for a run in the rain, but you can have a dance party in the living room, or go to the swimming pool, or have a martial arts lesson.
Or a tanning bed if a vacation is not an option, and you don’t live in a place with year-round warmth and rays. Minimal tanning is a great option for Vitamin D. You can also get an SAD lamp (though that helps with hormones, and does not create vitamin D). Also there are now vegan D3 supplements, so getting those can help too, especially if you don’t want to spend money on tanning.
If you can’t afford it, do mutual massage with your partner or a good friend. Do it as a trade.
I mean, duh. Connecting with your partner in this way is going to make you feel even closer, more loved, and flood you with gorgeous happy chemicals. If you don’t have a partner, give yourself some love.
6. Water and Lots of it
We need to flush our systems! You will get a lot more fluid in your system from eating mostly fruits and vegetables, but considering we live in toxic environments, we need a lot more flushing out!
7. Exquisite Physical Self-Care
Treat yourself beautifully. Treat your skin and your hair and your teeth with utmost care – don’t drown yourself in products – simplicity is good.
8. Belief Questioning
If you are having a hard time, write down everything about what’s going on – be pissed off. And then question those beliefs à la Byron Katie. It works wonders.
Even if everything is going shitty, I bet you can find some amazing things in your life to focus on instead.
10. Media Boycott
We get way too caught up in things like Facebook and Youtube and whatnot these days. Take a break from them – spend the time doing things you used to do before the internet took over everyone’s lives.
11. Reading for Pleasure AND Learning
Related to the media boycott – instead of reading what everyone else is doing, read something someone has actually created. Or even better, learn something new.
12. Writing in a Journal + Creative Writing
I think I should have put this higher on the list, though everything on here is important. For me, writing encompasses both journaling AND creative writing, though I can get sucked into the internet and regret wasting my time doing that instead of working on my own stuff. As for journaling – if you are writing, and have nothing to write about – that is a sure sign your life has gotten pretty dull. (Actually, this was key to me realizing my former relationship had made my life boring! Time to get out! Thanks diary!)
13. Specific Goal-Oriented Work, Daily
I ain’t talking about your day job. I am talking about things you want to accomplish. You can do something to get closer to those goals every day. Even if you have tons of goals, you can do SOMETHING every day to reach them, even if it’s something tiny! Tiny things add up, too!
14. Stop Wasting Time
No more Farmville for you. Close your laptop. Go outside. Play with your animal friends. Jump on your partner.
15. Do Fun or Exciting Things Every Day
Even if it’s minor. You could die in 5 minutes – or less. Have fun as much as possible. I rode a PlasmaCar the other day, down a long wheelchair ramp. Twice. It made my whole day.
16. Pay Off Debts
Agh, this is huge. Money is the most annoying thing people worry about. There are ways to get out of debt – even if it’s huge amounts, there are probably a lot of creative ways you can get out of it. I’m lucky I don’t have a huge amount, but it still weighs me down, even though I don’t think about it a lot – it’s a nagging anvil on my carefree heart.
17. Be Creative Every Day
In some way. There are ways to put a flourish on anything.
18. Clean Environment/Minimalism
Your environment is a reflection of your mindstate. Too messy = chaotic mind. Clean = calm mind. Spotless at every single moment = obsessive mind. You get the picture.
19. Time With Animals
Do I need to explain? Having a sweet animal friend helps keep you calm, gives you unconditional love, and gives you a purpose and focus for YOUR love, too.
20. Sleep – Early Nights (Usually)
As much as I love staying up late, I know it’s not the best for me. Going to bed between 10 and midnight is a really good idea – even earlier if you can. A lot of things I enjoy happen late at night, though, so I think as long as I go to bed early as a usual, I can stay out later sometimes – as long as I still get enough sleep. How do you know it’s enough? You wake up without any alarms, and you are ready to sit up and stretch. If you want to curl up into a ball again, you need more! (unless you’re just cold and want to stay cozy! I get it!)
21. B12 Test/Injections
This is one I gotta check out – it’s been a while since I had my levels checked. I have been taking a sublingual for a long time and want to see if it’s making any difference. If not, stab away! This is one nutrient that is hard for EVERYONE to get, not just vegans and vegetarians. It’s an extremely complicated vitamin.
22. See Friends More Often
I can tend to hide away and get too introspective – even if I don’t feel like going to see someone, I never regret going. Or rarely!
23. But Have Alone Time More Often, Too
If I’m around people TOO much, then I don’t have enough time to work on my own stuff. A lot of what I do takes solitude. Also, for other people, alone time is important to BE introspective. So many people hate being alone – why? You must really not like yourself. Why not? Spend some time alone and figure it out, then fix it!
24. Written Goals/Vision Board/Book
Writing shit down is so important. There are so many times I remember thinking “Nah, I don’t need to do that, I already know what I want to accomplish” – but until I actually wrote it down, it didn’t really happen. Having a beautiful visual is great, too! I did some awesome boards on Pinterest – but be careful with that site, it can become a distraction.
25. Martial Arts + Hoopdance
For me, these things are fun and at least one is practical. Both boost confidence, especially martial arts. I highly recommend trying a martial arts class – they all generally let you do the first lesson for free – if you want recommendations for the best kinds, shoot me a message. As for hoopdance, it’s fun, challenging, creative, beautiful, and great for your body.
26. Plants and Nature
Another little thing that can help your mood is to have plants around, and lots of them – ESPECIALLY if you live in the city. Getting out in nature is going to be even better – do that as much as possible – the more time spent outside (in nature) the better. If you live in Cold Ass Frozen City, then get some tropical indoor plants and pretend you’re somewhere else by sitting by the heater. But still…get some awesome thermals and a parka and epic boots and go out in the snowy forest if you have to – it’s worth it.
Hopefully some of these tips are helpful to you – I’m sure your own list will be somewhat different, however, there are a lot of things on this list that are useful to everyone, so please incorporate them, and feel happy 🙂