How to Stick to Your Goals and Become Amazing

While I was on the ferry home to Victoria from Vancouver, I was in my car and thinking about how “off” I got when I was not in my regular routine and visiting my family. How I, along with so many people, allow themselves to cheat or push things aside that are important to them when they go “away” – but you are not “away.” You are still in your body, you still have your mind, you still have all the same dreams and desires you had before – don’t neglect them.

When I go to Vancouver, I start visiting all these raw and vegan food places I “miss” and binge on things that I know are not great for me (though to everyone else they’d be ridiculously healthy – but for me, I feel the difference). Funny thing is that I didn’t even enjoy many of those things. I started to neglect the workout regime I’ve been very dedicated to for the last 2 months – luckily I did a little bit, but when I was sitting in my car thinking about it, really I could have done everything normally, I just made excuses. I wasn’t going on “vacation” and even if I was, I wouldn’t go “away” to escape from my freaking goals. Going “away” is to visit people, see new places, escape from work – NOT to neglect what is important to you.

And so I decided, along with the word “tenacious,” that I wanted to be able to describe myself as “dedicated.” Similar, yes, but decidedly different. Next time I go to visit the mainland, or anywhere, I will know to factor in EVERYTHING that is important to me that I do regularly, and to not skip it or sabotage it just because I make the excuse of being AWAY.

So, what are you? How could you be defined? How do you WANT to be defined? What words would you like to describe yourself by? Start calling yourself those things and you will become them.

What are you dedicated to? As you can see, I have neglected writing in my blog for a couple of weeks – I consciously made that decision, as I was starting to rebel against the schedule I set for myself. I do well with guidelines, but not strict rules. However, I have neglected writing in general, which to me is just sacrilege. Even if I am not writing here, I must write. Daily. And so I dedicate myself.

I dedicate myself fully to writing, to raw foods, and to fitness. I dedicate myself to my Ninjutsu practice. I dedicate myself to animal welfare and preserving the planet as much as I can. Everything on my list are things I dedicate myself to DAILY or at least weekly. Having this reminder to look at every day is paramount to my success. It’s so easy to forget goals and things that make us better people – we all want to be the best versions of ourselves. It’s stupid to envy others and want to be them – why not be the best YOU? Have you even tried that?

All of those adjectives I wrote…I already am, or am becoming. Always have things to strive for. I love myself as is, but I want to become better and better. Why wouldn’t I? Or you? So many people give up – “I’m too old” or “I’m too fat” or “I’m too boring.” What you tell yourself you are, you are. Tell yourself something different. Make it something you can BELIEVE, though. Even if you are a couch potato, you can say “I am athletic” because you actually are – you just have to wake that part of yourself UP. Your body has always been athletic, but you have to use it in that way! You have always been healthy, but you have to give your body the right conditions to thrive in! Allow it to heal! You have to do the work. This is sort of like affirmations, but not. You really have to find that part of yourself that can believe what you are saying. You’re not going to believe you are something if you aren’t that way IN THAT MOMENT, so choose your words carefully. Find a way to believe it. Dig deep, question everything. Find the truth in what you are saying.

You are worthy and you are capable. You are resilient. Get out there and live.

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One Word That Can Change Your Life

Do you call yourself lame, stupid, lazy, boring, inept, fat, or incompetent, or worse?

Well, if you keep telling yourself that, you are right.

Before you start freaking out at me, let me explain. I do not mean that in a cruel way. What  you tell yourself that you are, and the more you say it to yourself, the more it is what you will become, positive or negative.

We need to change our internal monologue. We need to stop belittling ourselves. It is completely crazy and overwhelming how much power we have over our own lives and our own self-perception. It’s hard to believe, and most people don’t, especially about themselves.

I’m not suggesting affirmations, where you stand in front of the mirror and say “I love you” or start telling yourself “I’m rich and successful!” when you have $1 in your pocket and $70,000 of student loans and a job that pays $10 an hour. That’s fake, and you will feel stupid and probably stop after a day.

Most affirmations are just you lying to yourself, and you know it. It feels false and gross. Even if it’s true that you are a beautiful person, if you don’t look at yourself and believe it, you are going to feel fake and dislike yourself even more. HOWEVER, if affirmations do work for you, that’s awesome, and I am not trying to take away from that. I just know that most people find them cheesy and silly, and for good reason. I believe there is a better way.

What you need to do is choose an adjective for yourself. You want to choose a word that you can be NOW.

I started doing this a couple of months ago. I started to refer to myself as “tenacious.” It’s a fantastic word, and it is exactly the type of person I want to be, and it is something I can become, NOW. At any moment.

Make it a trait you admire in others. If you admire it in other people, chances are you wish you could be that way. Instead of admiring others for their wealth, beauty, or success, look at what traits they have that GOT them to that place.

Choose a word like: unstoppable, determined, persistent, tireless, relentless, bad-ass, etc. You can decide to be these things instantly. When you want to do something and feel anxious or self-doubting, say to yourself, “I am ___ and I am UNSTOPPABLE!” CHOOSE to believe it, and move forward with that attitude. Attitude is everything.

Ever since I started referring to myself as tenacious, I have been. In everything that I do. Martial arts, this blog, exercise, work. It has given me more discipline than I’ve ever had, just from thinking of myself as tenacious.

And it’s simple. It’s one word. Just repeat it to yourself and see what happens. Often the simplest things have the most power.