Personal Reality is Complete Fabrication

“You can’t do that – it’s not realistic.” 

When someone says that to you, do you believe them?

It’s a lie. That is their reality. Their reality says you can’t do it – but does yours? If you choose to believe “reality” is only one way, that is your choice. Everything you believe is your choice.

You create your own reality. Most people think there are only one or two options, when in fact, there are countless ways to do everything.

What is reality, anyway? My reality completely differs from everyone else. So does yours. What you interpret, what you believe, who you follow, how you behave – it is all your choice. To think otherwise is to give up complete control of yourself – to put yourself in the hands of others, to make yourself a puppet, to surrender to the many manipulations of society. You can succumb to the pressure, or you can say FUCK NO.

“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.”
Albert Einstein

Generally people are caught up in “the norm” and want to blend into society (or they think they do).  Many people blindly follow others, or ideals, without even taking into consideration how they personally feel. There are many others that pave their own paths  – some are famous, some are not – but people tend to regard them as “special” or “talented.”

The only difference between regular people and impressive people (the ones doing what they want, the way they want) is that they do two things:

1. Believe they can do it.
2. Are persistent.

That’s the ONLY difference.


I like to link everything with health for specific reasons – for me, and I think for a huge number of people – when I am not functioning properly, I do not feel motivated. I may feel like a failure, or useless, or too tired, or too old, or that there are way more interesting and talented people out there.

When I focus on my health, I get benefits x 100000. First off – I’m healthy!  Bonus! But along with that, there is clarity, self-esteem, ecstasy, natural happiness, an overall well-being – this instantly lines up with the confidence to go for the things I want.

No matter how much you may want to do something, if you are not truly healthy, your brain may not function in a way that allows you to follow your dreams. When I made the connection between my diet and my depression, everything morphed. My entire life changed once I focused on my health.

“The higher your energy level, the more efficient your body. The more efficient your body, the better you feel and the more you will use your talent to produce outstanding results.”
Tony Robbins


Since your brain is the epicenter of all you do, and all you desire, it only makes sense to take the very best care of it. You need to nourish your body  properly, you need to sleep enough to regenerate your cells, you need to continue to learn. Without all the parameters taken care of, your brain will not perform at its OPTIMAL levels. You may still function just fine, but are you trapped by a lifetime of repression? Have you always believed what others have told you? What are your limited beliefs keeping you from? Can you even imagine?

When you think more clearly, you start to see the cracks in “reality” – you see all the underlying bullshit. I am not talking about conspiracy theories – I am talking about everything that is hidden from you, that is never out in the open, never on TV. – the things you need to seek out for yourself. You may not even want to seek them out for yourself because it is overwhelming, or because you are too tired from the barrage of empty, meaningless garbage thrown at you from all angles, all day, every day. It is so much easier to just mindlessly follow along, no effort required.

A lot of these things are so infuriating that you may give up hope for all of humanity., including yourself.  I feel that way at times – however, that just may be what “they” hope for – it’s all too much, so why bother? I’m a part of  the system and that is reality – most people believe this. Too depressed, too brainwashed, not even aware of their own power.

So what about the people out there who DO NOT live within the normal construct of “reality” – the ones who lives on the outskirts, who find loopholes, who really grasp the truth, who find personal freedom, that do and be whatever they please? How did they get there, how do they do it?

Reality is nothing but a collective hunch.
Lily Tomlin

It is my mission to find out – to meet more and more people like this, and to become one myself.

Along with true health, to become what you want you must surround yourself with people you admire – real people to look up to.


If you only hang around healthy people, you are bound to become healthier. Just like if you hang around addicts, you will probably end up with a needle in your arm.

If you only hang around successful people, you will likely learn and put many of the things they do into practice – the constant inspiration will naturally push you forward.

If you want to become a better athlete, train with people BETTER than you – a natural competitive nature will do much more for your skill than practice alone.

Finding people to be with in person is always best, but if you have no other options right now, there is an endless vortex of like-minded people connected to you by tiny electronics pulses. Take advantage of it.

What do you most want to do, how do you want to live? Find people already doing it and talk to them! Engage them, pummel them with questions – people love talking about themselves.

If there is no one to admire or emulate, well , then you have the extreme pleasure of becoming a visionary.

Just remember that the only thing holding you back from doing what you want is the belief that you can’t. If you believe that, your mind will never see any other options. If you start LOOKING for other options, they will appear. Maybe not immediately, but because your brain is open, you will see them when they do appear.

This is not new age stuff – it’s science. There is a part of the brain called the reticular activating system. It filters out any irrelevant information (such as when you are immersed in doing something and the whole world falls away –  like right now – there is traffic noise but I don’t hear it because I am focused on writing this). It works the other way, too – positively or negatively. When you hear a song you hate, you probably hear it everywhere. When you love a particular breed of dog, you will spot one a mile away. It’s because your brain is always attuned to the things you have strong feelings for.

You are very likely to accomplish what you want if you keep a positive focus on it. You also have to know what you want, specifically, or you will not travel in the right direction.

Every successful person in the world would be struggling if they hadn’t believed they could succeed. When I opened my mind and looked for real answers to my health problems, instead of mindlessly going back to the doctor for pills, I discovered true health. I was completely open! I would never have given second thought to changing my diet otherwise – why would I have? No one else had ever suggested it – certainly not a doctor. If I had trusted doctors, or media, I never would be who I am now.

Instead of thinking: “I’m depressed. I need to go back on pills. I need to go to the doctor” I thought, “Okay, there are other options, there has to be. I want to find the answer on my own.” And I did. It was very powerful and has had lasting impact – if I have any physical ailments, I know I have the ability to correct it myself. There is a deep knowing that we all have, that we tend to ignore. Ever wonder why that is?

I think that society is used to having other people think for them. We look to other “experts” to fix all of our problems, before we even try to fix them ourselves. We’re so used to it that we don’t believe in our own intuition, our own common sense, or our own strength.

So many people believe that the world is the way it is, and too bad – suck it up. Get a job, get married, have kids, pay debts, watch TV at night, then die. After the barrage of traditional education, our natural love of learning and our burgeoning talents are squashed so we can be molded into society’s workforce.

I know this because it happened to me. All I wanted to do as a youth was be a writer and a musician, perhaps a photographer. Somehow along the way I became a retail worker and then took the completely wrong subjects in college – multimedia, and later on I took a vet assistant course. Do I do either of these things now? No. Do I do anything remotely akin to my original passions? No. I did take photography courses after high school, but it was much more expensive to take photos back then – the world was not digital yet. I felt daunted for many reasons – societal pressures, my own mental decline, limiting beliefs.

I have given up on so many things – snowboarding (after breaking my arm and having no money to continue, I gave up), surfing (always was convinced I was unathletic and would never improve), and countless other things.

I could have been amazing at all of these things if I had kept positive and kept at it. Back then, though, I was not positive, at all. I was also very unhealthy. I would have brief moments of optimism, and then crumble.

I lament my youth so often –  I would so love to go back in time with the knowledge I have now. The thing is, I am still young. I can still do whatever I want,  I can still do all of those things, and I can still do them when I’m old and pink (you think I’ll ever be grey? Please.)

I am not using any of these as excuses – just examples of how I could whine about wasted opportunities instead of changing the reality of what I do now, in this moment.

Reality is what you sculpt it into. Forever and always. The people who escape horrible situations get out of them because they believe they can – or they would never try. I’m sure my situations (and yours) are a lot easier to overcome.

Welcome to your imagination, sweetheart.


Man, there are too many good reality quotes – enjoy:

There are no facts, only interpretations.
Friedrich Nietzsche

The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask.
Jim Morrison

Reality is the leading cause of stress among those in touch with it.
Lily Tomlin

Few people have the imagination for reality.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Dreams pass into the reality of action. From the actions stems the dream again; and this interdependence produces the highest form of living.
Anais Nin

There are many ways to be free. One of them is to transcend reality by imagination, as I try to do.
Anais Nin

Reality means you live until you die. The real truth is nobody wants reality.
Chuck Palahniuk

Whatever you believe with feeling becomes your reality.
Brian Tracy

There’s no reality except the one contained within us. That’s why so many people live an unreal life. They take images outside them for reality and never allow the world within them to assert itself.
Hermann Hesse

Gaaaaahh so good. That last one is my favourite. I should read these for hours – inspiration to the max.

For a great book about changing your reality and finding freedom, check out How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World: A Handbook for Personal Liberty – by Harry Browne (what I am currently reading). The next books on my list this month are Free by Katherine Hibbert and Courage: The Joy of Living Dangerously by Osho.

3 thoughts on “Personal Reality is Complete Fabrication

  1. One of my favourite quotes:

    “Perception is reality.” – James St. James (seen in the movie ‘Party Monster’, not sure if it’s really a James St. James quote)


  2. I love your writing, and I covet your reading list. My own imagination and the refuge I seek in that has saved me from going completely bonkers in the last year and a half. It’s only when I started giving myself permission to feed and nurture my internal images that more magical things started happening – I’m learning to take responsibility for where I direct my intention.

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